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HOW TO KEEP A GREAT MARRIAGE WITH A JAMAICAN MAN
Filed under Jamaican CultureJan 14Many articles are written about how to get a ‘JAMAICAN MAN’, but it is also extremely important to know how to maintain the relationship and keep the man in your life .Many Jamaican men are afraid of taking the step towards marriage because they feel ” THE WOMAN CHANGES ONCE SHE GETS THE RING ”. Yes ,sometimes women take things for granted and some women are very immature in their actions,however,most times poor communication and misunderstanding are the main culprits that lead to the road of separation. Below are some of the things women need to keep in mind to maintain a great marriage to a Jamaican man .
1) LISTEN- The first year in a marriage is ” THE GETTING TO KNOW EACH OTHER YEAR”.It is the year you get to learn the most about your partner. Although you will continue to learn about him as the years go by, the first year is when you are most taken aback by his different moods and actions, re-actions and general personality.Jamaican men basically communicate more during the dating stage and the beginning of marriage.LISTEN WELL and ask questions if you are not sure.Women who do not listen well and/or do not pay much attention to what he says,you will miss out and suffer the consequences later.He will shut down after he feels you are not very sensitive to his needs or desires(not that he is selfish, but he thinks if you love him you will try to do the things he likes).Most Jamaican men are extremely family oriented and will not be quick to get a divorce, however he can totally shut down while remaining in the matrimonial home.The Jamaican man will tell you his likes and dislikes but he will not repeat himself constantly !! So remember ladies, our first line of duty is to LISTEN !! He will certainly not have the same discussion over and over !
2)COMMUNICATE- The next step to have a great marriage to a Jamaican man is to learn to communicate well. Our Jamaican men are not the most patient of men and will get frustrated very easily. You however can have him loving you even more and wanting to be around you more if he feels connected and free to be himself. It is very important for a woman not to attack her husband when he says something she does not like or approve of.It is extremely hard sometimes to control our emotions but it is very important to do so.Never sweep bad feelings under the carpet,just choose the appropriate time to talk.Most discussions can be had in the bedroom,just before bed (especially if kids are in the home).Try never to go to bed angry with each other.If the problem needs more time to solve it, make a date to do so, going out for a drink , dinner or even a walk,can be a very relaxing way to talk more and come to an understanding with disagreements.The main thing is to give each other time to talk while the other listens .Put yourself in the other partner’s shoe and ask ” how would I feel” ? Getting respect from his woman is at the top of a Jamaican man’s list. Never talk to a Jamaican man as if you are in charge, always be submissive ,however have it all together. Know exactly what you want and stick to the point (Do not keep straying on things he did the months before).
3)BE A GREAT HOMEMAKER-A Jamaican man takes pride in his home. His home is his castle where he is the king and likes to have peace. Home is where he comes to re-charge ,relax and be himself .He does not like to come home and have to face an argument or a disgruntled face.He enjoys coming home to a beautifully put together woman with welcoming arms who is happy to see him. Jamaican men enjoys coming home to a very clean house and also appreciate a delicious meal. They like a wife who cooks well and entertains well .This practice is his idea of having an excellent homemaker and wife.He also likes it when his wife cares a great deal for his health
4)FIND OUT HIS SLEEP ROUTINE-One very important thing couples need to look out for ”what time clock is your partner on ”. This is not taken into consideration by many and has caused many separations.Some people are morning people, which means they are more alive ,alert and vibrant in the mornings.The morning person gets up very early in the mornings and can sometimes be insensitive to the sleeping needs of the other person.They sometimes feel the need to discuss some very important things early in the morning,which would at that time not be processed properly by the other spouse who is trying to sleep or relax in bed.Sometimes the feeling of rejection can start to brew if one partner’s conversation is taken lightly in this case, or if their sexual advance and desires are brushed aside.The same thing happens when one partner is a night person and the other is not,The night person might feel like he/she is being rejected ,not getting enough attention and not being loved ultimately.Once this part of the relationship is sorted out and couples can compromise ,a huge weight can be lifted off the shoulders of the marriage.
5)LOOK OUT FOR HIM-Jamaican men like it when their women “HAVE THEIR BACKS”. Never discuss him in a negative way with your best friends or family members.Never crack jokes about him in a negative light or expose his downfalls to others.This lets him feel less of a man and not comfortable around you. If your partner is the type of person who likes the spotlight ,say things to uplift him ,when around others.Pay attention to his interests ,hobbies and goals in life , be supportive at all times.Always let it be known to him and others that you are on his side.Always wait until you get home to let him know if you totally disagree with him on a particular matter.
6)LET HIM BE THE MAN- Jamaican men like to be in charge of the family. Their actions might not show it at times, but they have the need to constantly” WEAR THE PANTS”. They are usually filled with pride and cares what people think of them regarding being the head of the house.Let him have equal input on major decisions regarding the house,the family and finance.Be affectionate and gentle to him, yet strong and assertive when the need arise . The Jamaican ,man although he likes to be in charge loves a strong woman.
7)MAINTAIN YOUR APPEARANCE-Like every other man,the Jamaican man is very proud when his wife ”FIXES UP HERSELF” (looks good all the time)After all ,it was one of the reason he was first attracted to you ! Even when finances are not up to scratch,groom your hair in an attractive fashion,take the time to wear some make up and wear clothes that fits well. Many women tend to eat more during stressful times and therefore put on weight,never go out and buy new clothes to fit into after a weight gain.Work out at the gym or take long walks to shed those extra pounds !! Always maintain good hygiene ,wear his favourite perfumes and ALWAYS,ALWAYS wear great lingerie.
8)INTIMACY – The lock to a great marriage! Every thing else can close that door but if you really want a secure and firm relationship , the extra bolt on that door would be great intimacy with him. A Jamaican man enjoys extra attention and will get it from somewhere !! So make sure it comes from you !!Intimacy does not start in the bedroom !! always remember ,you have to make him feel like the man ,be the sexiest you can be,listen to him,communicate well,have his back,be a great homemaker and you will have his heart.Let him feel you submit to him,look in his eyes with great passion when you talk to him and remind him you are his baby(no matter how old you are).When a Jamaican man feels he can trust you and there is passion he will give himself,his heart and his soul to you.Sex is of utmost importance to the Jamaican man,however when it comes to his special woman he prefers the term” making love”.
Love making is the ultimate gift between a man and his wife,the Jamaican man has no reservation when it comes to that special time.When a Jamaican man is happy and content he can create heaven here on earth for you.
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14 Responses to “HOW TO KEEP A GREAT MARRIAGE WITH A JAMAICAN MAN”
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Leoyne said on February 6th, 2012 at 7:08 am
I'm African-American married to a Jamaican man. This was a great article. Thanks alot for the heads up!
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Thanks Leoyne,
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Angela said on February 28th, 2012 at 2:54 pm
I am Black British, born in the UK to Jamaican parents and married to a Jamaican man for over 30 years. I wish I had read this article earlier in life. It took years to learn all the above. I now know why my mother always took the lower seat but won all the arguments. Once you understand your man it so easy to pull the strings in the direction he will respond. Great article.
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Thanks Angela,so true about understanding him.
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chanta said on June 30th, 2012 at 1:08 am
this article has helped me in so many of the issues me and my jamacan husband are struggling with. it was good to get feedback on his perspective and how he may view things.
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Hi Chanta , Thanks for joining in. It is so interesting to see the various beliefs that the men in our culture share.Once we get to understand them we have the most loyal family men.
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Ethi said on April 9th, 2013 at 1:08 pm
This is a very good article which is help ful for my new life with a Jamaican husband
Thank you
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Kaye said on May 4th, 2013 at 8:30 pm
I’ve seen a generous side, helpful side, and patient side of my Jamaican boyfriend but have yet to see the passionate, sensual, affectionate side. We have been together for two and a half years and I have a child by him. I also had a child prior to him. He lived six hours away when we met and so he just commuted back and forth. He spends ninety percent of his time with me now but the time is not of quality. I work regular weekday hours and he doesn’t. So when I get home its nice that he has cooked and tidy up the place, but that’s it. We will kiss but its only a brief kiss on the lips, he has never tongue kissed me. When we have sex, its just that. No love making, no foreplay. It’s simple sex. I don’t feel he is passionate about me. It seems the only person he is passionate about is our child together but not me or my oldest child. He hasn’t taken me out on a date in over a year. He doesn’t want to go with me to do anything. He’ll provide me with money and bags but no real attention and affection. There’s a disconnect and if I ask him questions he just says don’t worry about it. It just seems like he’s stuck in his ways, mind you he’s 41 and I’m 31, and he acts like some old backwards thinking Jamaican man who wants his woman in the house all day and don’t take her anywhere. The ultimate deal breaker is that he went to Miami on a one way ticket to stay with his best friend and hasn’t given me an expected date of return. I’m just fed up with this Jamaican man. He has an issue of thinking he’s being controlled because I expect to know when he’s going to return and because I ask him questions about why we’re not going out anymore. I can’t take this anymore.
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Shurma Julien-Martin said on July 9th, 2013 at 4:59 pm
I’m a Trinidadian married to a Jamaican man for the past 9 years and all what you said is true especially with their moms. Great article. Thanks.
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Mrs Shearer said on July 25th, 2013 at 3:51 pm
This artical was a very refreshing read after browsing the web and seeing so many horror stories about Jamaican men.
I was in search of forums, sites or groups for Americans who are trying to bring their Jamaican loved ones to the US and couples who have already successfully done so but very glad I stumbled across this page.
Thanks for sharing!!
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You are most welcome
All the best
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MemaD said on September 1st, 2013 at 7:16 pm
I am married to a Jamaican man who is narcissitic, selfish, gives absolutely no affection and displays the typical Jamaican characteristics that you’ve described here. Problem is, you women have no pride in yourselves and allow yourself to be subservient to these assholes! I am an african-american/native american woman whose ancestors would roll over in their graves if I allowed myself to be bullied by this third-world bumpkin! His parents divorced when he was young, and he was raised primarily by his mother, who completely fuk’d him up! He sucks as a father, husband, friend, confidant and now lover! Can’t wait to get rid of him…..
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Sandy said on January 22nd, 2014 at 6:44 am
I have met this sweet Jamaican man, who says I have gain his heart. He makes me feel good about myself. He tells me how beautiful I am to him. What you have said here is true. He continusously tests me. I can sense certain things are very important to him. When he reveal to me that he was Jamaican, I when on a quest to study his culture. I am no fool, I want to be on my game. I want to learn what it will take to make him happy. He is big on honesty and faithfulness. He ia slowly letting me in on his dreams and plans for the future. He doen’t seem to be like some of these wild men, I have ready about on the internet. He is more like this articule. I am excited about what the future could for us. Thanks for the valuable info.
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Judit said on March 23rd, 2014 at 4:56 pm
I’ve had a Jamaican ‘boyfriend’ who meant everything for me, he said he loves me but he was flirting with other housemates, found lame excuses not to be with me, no explanations where is he going when will be back, very secretive, did not even tell me what’s his job, lies after lies. Never been honest, threw me out from our bed when his mom came for a visit because mom wanted to spend the whole period with him, he lied about everything, never ever forgive him. Reading your article just shows how selfish, arrogant these men are. Yeah everything has to be by their wish and never question their act..Is that for real???!!!!
